I am single and I am happy too but the people around me (a part from my family) are not happy with my single status. What to do? Are they seriously concerned about my happiness or they consider it their right to comment on “why I am still single?” Moreover, to show sympathy that I am not married yet. But my question to them is “what is their problem”?
Peer pressure, societal pressure always forced girls and their family to end up in a miss match. And later on, such marriages result into divorce and separation. Therefore, it is extremely important not to get married because of pressure. It is better to be single than to end your life in a mess.
There was a time when the perfect age for girls’ marriage was 22-23 but (thanked God) now due to professional education and careers people do not mind getting their daughters married at the age of 26-27.Our society is accepting this trend, but (very) slowly.
Settling with someone just to please the society and to avoid the hurting comments, is not a fair deal. Getting married is not like taking admission in some college or university or for that matter enrolling oneself for some diploma course for a year or so. It is a lifelong decision and should be taken with conscious mind. Rather than emotions and sentiments.
Both boys and girls want a compatible life partner; they look for many things before getting into any relation. And I believe it is good because no one marry for a short period intentionally, so one should be open and careful about it in order to avoid difficulties and problems later on. Today marriages are neither arrange nor love but somewhere in between.
In addition, due to the advancement and development in different means of communication, people found a more easy way to get hold of their (perfect) match. Social networks, mobile phones, matrimonial sites etc. Co-education, working places all are also a good source of match making(if the person is serious). Because through all these means one got the opportunity to know the other person, other than the traditional ways of finding a match.
Therefore, those who are single and happy with it just do not bother what society thinks. Look for your happiness as we all have one life so enjoy it to the fullest. Be happy always.
When you are younger 21 22 23, you are more prone to adaptability compared to 26 27 years of age, so given that you marry and live with inlaws, you are more prone to change to new surroundings and life, which is harder when you are much older, with age you become rigid in your life style and thought patterns .
I am not against late marriages, but in all honesty, one must follow nature and not stuck up in a matrix this society created around us. You can still be successful even if you are married at 21 years of age!
So hey, why are you still single? lol!
Mein bhi single hoonnnnn
I am a Pakistani National right from 12 years here in the great kingdom of Saudi Arabia.
As far so long its truly hard for me to understand the politics and the politics of pakistani Positions.
For me and i think for us is the only hope were Pakistani media which is already involve in Pakistan Development.
I can’t said that all the media but some of them, the only hope where i am thinking is A free Media And New generation and the there leader.
I hope that Imran khan will not involve in that type of Dirty politics.
Mujarrab Hassan Khan
CEO
Industrial Progress company Saudi Arabia.
dear sister u r right about ur stance regarding attitude of youngsters of current age…and I expected this after watching u defending PMLN on TV…:) BUT u ru information regarding match making is v theoretical (BTW I have the practical experience:P) …ur concept of match making is based on illusion
Here is my view for my all single bro’s n sis’s
practically human mismatch is distributed on a very large spectrum…in short PERFECT MATCH is a foolish fancy…I mean its not as relative or important as we believe….u just need to select the fair player …… The most important is the ability to take only one man from this entire world at some common ground………through Language n logic………acceptance …………at least co existence….just in few years the blood chemistry starts merging……..there is little meta physics so dont be commercial or quantitative
do u expect muslimahs to be virgins at 26/27 and muslim men even older then this in a society which has highest unwanted teen preg rate in the world?
Average age of loosing virginity is 17 in uk and getting lower. Yet u expect muslimahs to be virgins till 26/27 and men (naturally older eg 30+ )
Average no of partners in uk is about many for women before marriage and even more for men.
Muslims divorce rate is now 50% amongst professional musims, due to skeletons in the closet and other issues.
90+% of muslim men and 88% women have had physical relationships by age 30. survey done in 2001. it is higher now… then claim to be virgins and then have divorce when the truth comes out…
90% of divorces are filed by women in he uk.
Medical science say the best age for child birth is 21 or early twenties, yet u dont mention this. ANd u say thank got for muslimah to miss out on this peak age fo child birth… What education are u glorifying here? CLearly u need to re-educated ur self. and come back with better factual satements.
being a virgin is long way way , do u expect these 26/27 year olds to never have touched a man (as is said by islam…by this age in a country where average age for loosing virginity is 17. The non muslims laugh at ur way of life and what a bad representation ur saying.. As Islam urges a early marital life… “to dwell in peace and tranquilty”… AL quran… “those whom dont marry are not from me” Saying of hadith.
masturbation is prohibited for both men and women, to stare at the opposite sex is also prohibited as is freely mixing with them as is talking to them necessarily as is even thinking about them, (accounts for adultery ), as is flirting with them… as is so upto age 26/27 ur expecting muslimah to never have touched another man or themselves, or to even have a laugh with another man till this age… and men normally are older then women a few years at point of marriage, so ur expecting men to be 30+ and never have masturbated or have touched another woman or even look at her sexually??? talk to her or enjoy her… what utter nonsense… you totally disgust me.. go re-educate ur self.
When ever we have a problem we must look at the prophet saaw and the sahaba as there is no problem or problems they never encountered and we did… so for regards to sexuality there solution is also there… google marriage in islam and re-educate ur self with the terms misyar marriage and relate it to the scholars of the time in main islamic countries today who show u how to live a good islamic life enjoying all this world has to offer and not compromising the morality which the west are jealous of islam, and wish to promote promiscuity with promoting ignorant muslims who talk utter nonsense like the above article…
Read surah maryam in quran and learn why maryam the mother of jesus has the highest status of all the women ever… and career did maryam the mother of jesus have …
ALlah does not guide the rebellious… But the ones who seek guidance.
above all married people research has show are in happier and successful in life… depends how u go about it… not to have a sex deprived youth and them marry when ur old and past it… then think why men want a younger sexy girl????
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